Labour-day Anxiety

I just got back from the Dr who we didn’t actually see because he was at a seminar or something, things here do not work on an appointment basis you can go and see the Dr whenever you want and you just wait your turn. Seeing as we were there I asked to see the delivery room and met one of the midwives, she seemed nice, but when I started asking questions I got the impression she was a little strict and set in her ways.
I was shown 3 different rooms, the first was the prep room where I will be when I am in the early stages of labour, here they will monitor the babies heart, I asked if I will be stuck in bed in that time and she said no, if I am ok I will be able to get up and walk around provided my water hasn’t broken. Then I was shown the second room which is where I will be for the hard labour, and guess what, they are going to make me put my legs in stirrups, I am not impressed, I asked if I could be on all fours or squat and she just kind of looked at me funny and said I shouldn’t be embarrassed to have my legs in stirrups and I will only be like that for the final 3 pushes. Plus it is necessary so the Dr can see what is going on and to prevent any complications like the umbilical cord coming out first or an arm etc, yeah right. I was then shown the 3rd room which is the recovery room where I will stay for about 3 days, it had a cot, some nice pictures on the wall a fridge a tv etc. I don’t really fancy being in there for 3 days no matter how nice they have tried to make it look.
I also asked the midwife a lot of the Q’s I meant to ask the Dr, firstly she said they don’t perform an episiotomy unless it is necessary, well if my legs are in bloudy stirrups as if it wont be necessary. She also said it is procedure to give the baby vitamin K, but nothing else at this stage. She said they will give me the baby straight away to feed if I want before they take him/her away to be cleaned up and put it in an incubator to warm up (not sure if that is necessary). But she said it is also noisy in the labour room at that point and so as not to shock the poor thing they do that to ease the blow of coming into the real world. Another thing I asked is what there procedure is if I am late and how long they will leave me before they induce me. She started to give me a massive speech about how it isn’t good for the baby to stay inside longer than 40 weeks because by that point everything that needs to has developed and something about the longer it stays in there the worse it is. However she also said it depends on where I am at, they will do various tests etc to see if they should induce me. I still have a lot of unanswered questions and am not really happy with a lot of the answers. I really don’t want to have my legs in stirrups. I am a little more worried then I was before now. Not sure what I am feeling, nervous, a little angry that it isn’t the way I want it to be.
I forgot to ask what the anaesthetic is that they give if I wanted it, not that I do, but it is always good to know.
The midwife was young so whatever she has learnt has been probably in the last 10 years. So as far as natural birth goes she probably knows nothing. She was sweet don’t get me wrong I’m just not sure if it is now what I want. But the problem is I don’t really have many other choices. And not many people understand my viewpoint. Yes Panos is on my side but at the same time he is a little naive to what is happening to my body and what will happen to our baby. I feel a little drained and very disappointed and very much out of control of the whole situation.